What should I be doing (Working toward D 9)

[Coconut]

WW:
Well you've definitely not shown me this new great guy. All you've shown me is a mean, vindictive, cruel person. And you've taken no responsibility for your actions

Me:
Not until you went back to him

WW:
You're freaking crazy! I didn't go back to anyone. You just like to spread lies

Me:
I lie requires some belief it's not true, I've told you what I know and have not heard anything to make me believe it's not true... I know what you told him, I know you told Friend what not to text about him, I know you put some work in so other people didn't out your deceit.

WW:
The only reason you heard me tell her not to text me his name is because I told her the whole story & I didn't want her asking me questions or using his name in a text because the last time she did that you lost your mind. I told her that for my piece of mind.

ME:
I'm curious, when you say I've taken no responsibility for my actions, what does that mean? What does me taking responsibility look like? I feel like I have and am not sure why you think I haven't. Also, did you expand my whole text or just read the first two paragraphs?

WW:
I mean that you minimize anything I was going through over the last 2 years, tell me I'm exaggerating (like you have any [censored] clue what I was feeling), you place sole blame on me & have moved into the victim role very comfortably. It's just a little ridiculous. You don't see that my actions, although wrong & I take responsibility for that, are a result of your actions (or inaction). You can say what you want & I was the one who acted but when you were engaged & involved in our marriage, I texting with another person never even entered my mind. I was happy & content.

WW:
I only saw one small paragraph. Son hasn't withdrawn from you because of what's going on with us. He has withdrawn from both of us. He doesn't talk to me. I take him the the movies & its silence. He only goes because he wants to see a movie. He is sad about His ex gf & my dad is the only person he's talking to. His actions are not due to us.