It sounds like you have been really productive from the get go, and you've started reading up in the importance of caring for yourself. It takes a lot of kicking and screaming before some of us get to that realisation.
My wh has come out with that kind of fantasy of still having family time etc and have it civil. In my opinion, that's them l cake eating, trying to keep the best part of their family but still have the freedom of an affair partner. I told my wh that I would be civil and friendly for the sake of the children. But that is an impossible idea. I'm not interested in being some kind of buddy where they get the best of us but not the rest of us, I want to be the whole package- his wife. I don't think I could sit happily while seeing him with another woman. It seems like guilt on their part too.
Depression also seems a common occurrence of a wayward too. My h started off super happy and I was withdrawn and depressed. Now it feels the tables have turned and he appears depressed and all over the board, while I'm seemingly happy (it's a bit of fake it til you make it though at the moment).
You're doing great so far. Keep in focusing on you and your kids. Take the focus of her and leave her be. And keep posting, there's some great people here who give fantastic advise and are here to pick us up when we feel we can't go on.
Me 26 H 25 M 4 T 5 Baby born 4/14 BD: 1/15 EA: 2/15 PA: 4/15 reconciling: 4/15 ILYBINILWY- 11/15 ILY-1/16 ILYBNILWY 4/16 ILY 6/16 ILYBINILWY 6/16 Baby due 3/17 BD 8/16
