Well these discussions turned into fights. I tried to explain my need to focus on certain things, but I probably was overly defensive and argumentative. In the end I don't think we were able to resolve my need to focus on my goals with her need to feel more connected in the relationship and lead a more vibrant social life while married. This was both of our faults - but I was the one who was lying and smoking weed, so it became more of my fault.
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And please stop thinking that, even though the legal process MAY be followed through...
That you cannot have a relationship with your spouse in the future...
The legal process is causing me so much pain right now it's crazy - every week there's another BD that makes me feel like my world is exploding. I have to let go of any possibility of reconciliation right now, it's just too painful to hold onto that hope.
I feel like a lot of my lashing out in my previous thread had to do with people advising me as if the main objective should be to preserve that possibility of R with my wife - and my feeling that I need to totally cut out all hope of reconciliation right now because hanging on like that is causing me so much heartache.
Me-45, W-37, T-10 yrs, M-9 yrs D -7 yrs, S-5 yrs BD-5/3/16, D filed 6/8/16
