Thanks for that beautiful post. I am worried that some of the DB strategies could backfire, especially since my husband has abandonment issues.

Last night, he woke me in the middle of the night and asked me to come down to his room and snuggle with him. I did. Don't know that it means anything, but it felt good.

H39, W39
T18, M16
S9, S7
EA suspected 11/15
ILYBINILWY 1/16
Counseling 1/16 - 6/16
EA confirmed 1/16, ended 1/16
H signed lease to move out 8/18/16 (day before our anniversary)