Usually, it is the man, himself, that creates the biggest loss for her. Know how? When he walks in the other direction. When her manipulation loses its power on him. When she cannot affect his feelings. You may think that it doesn't matter to her. If so, then I suggest it's b/c she knows she still has you if/when she decides to want you.
This sounds very true in many cases. And I do wish very much that this is true in my case.
But, I believe that w/ my W ... she won't feel the loss until she's fully moved on to a life with a series of other men -- i.e., probably several years into the future -- when she realizes that our M wasn't as bad as she thought, that I wasn't such a bad partner as she thought ... and at that point the loss won't feel all that acute for her because it's so far in the past, and it will be far too late for her to come back to the M.
Bleak, but that's what I believe. This belief doesn't make me feel more clingy to her -- in fact, it motivates me to move on.
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
