There are exceptions, but usually, it is the man, himself, that creates the biggest loss for her. Know how? When he walks in the other direction. When her manipulation loses its power on him. When she cannot affect his feelings. You may think that it doesn't matter to her. If so, then I suggest it's b/c she knows she still has you if/when she decides to want you.
Sandi2 thank you for this!!!! This speaks to me. As my W's feelings still affect me. I feel I can take the "Bait" especially when W mentions she's sick.
-working on detachment and walking in a different direction.
