Maybell 39: I'm Too Old For This

[DonH]

The part that really jumped out at me, Maybell, was the comment that IF, and I do mean IF, NG said he was not there yet to being in love with you that you'd have to walk away. Why on earth would that be the case? It's not like he'd be giving you the old ILYBINILWY line. Moreover why if you decide to say it would he then automatically be required to say it? You most certainly cant think that you get to decide this timetable for both of you? I know you're smarter than all of this. So then I gave to think that you're just way overthinking all of it. I get it, it's really scary to be that vulnerable and put it all on the line. I'm guessing that's what it really is. But what if you both are waiting? And then I have to raise the point of how emotionally honest are you being with this guy if you're feeling something but not sharing it? Most certainly there is an appropriate window many people would follow.

If I was a guy, and by the way I am, lol, and if I was a guy who was cautious and not wanting to go too fast or get in too deep, and by the way I'm these things too, I can't tell you how great it would make me feel if you came to me and said something like, "things are obviously going well with us and at some point if that keeps going we are going I fall in live here - it that's not already happened. I have to tell you, even though part of me thinks that would be incredible, another part of me is scared shitless." I can't tell you if his response to "I love you" will be me too, but I'm betting his response to these comments will be ME TOO.

So FWIW, I'd really suggest you gave that conversation with him. I think it will do both of you a whole buch of good and will likely make you feel better and take the pressure off. And it's okay if either you or him are not there yet. Two years from now I'd a different story but not at this point.

And one more thing, I think you already knew all this. You're a very smart lady. You just needed a little reassurance. You are following nag and will do just fine. And just be ne more item from another guy, from all you've told us, including him seeing you as part of his retirement plans, this guy loves you whether he is ready to admit it yet or not. .