This is a tough ride and we all know there is no short cut to the end. All the things you went through the other day it is natural to have feelings and sometimes we can't control them. all we can do is focus on our kids and moving forward the W's we knew arnt functioning at the moment they are in some auto pilot wreck less spiral and it will end.
In my view right now I'm less and less day by day caring what my W is doing. It's her loss but I'm not blowing anything up so there is no way back for her just not worrying about what she is doing and you will get back to that place of not caring.
In my mind I really don't care about OM and I came to this by thinking about it in the way that he doesn't know my real W and everything she will be doing and telling him will be to make herself look good. Our W's are lost at the moment and it could take years to snap out of it or maybe never but I'm ok with that if my D2 is happy and cared for.
I am pretty much rambling things you have heard a million times but truly just this last week it's been 7 months since she left and only now am I at the point where I have realized it is truly her loss in every way. I made mistakes and I am working on them but I absoloutely guarantee that in a few years time with or without her I will be in a much better place. I don't want to see her crash and burn but I just know it's a certainty. Stay strong and fight the good fight
ME- 31 W-25 T-5 M-3 D2 ILYBNILWY and moved out - FEB16 W seeing someone else - JUL16
