LT, don't really see it as a FALSE positive per se. It's just me hitting FF and getting impatient. Yes, it is a positive she told me she doesn't want to divorce. But it's a harsh reality to know there's a mountain to climb between that and attempting to get back together.
Sandi, I'm not quite sure what you mean...
CBT/Coco: I obviously hit FF, and went back to my natural hatred of patience. Yeah, my initial thought was about what you said Coconut. CBT, no worries. As the day wore on, I realized it just wasn't appropriate to send. That would be so much more appropriate if we were in MC or in some way trying to reconnect. Not now. I'm making positive changes. I'm moving forward. I'm doing well, I just need to accept baby steps in HER journey just as I do my own. Be able to accept those baby steps without expecting things to snowball at the speed I want them to.
It gets frustrating. It's hard. If I didn't have this place, it's much more likely I'd contact W when I'm feeling scared or doing things to try to be nice. I'm plenty patient when it comes to my little boy, but with adults I always say the same thing. "Hurry up and make a choice." Unfortunately, for it to be the choice I'd much prefer here, I have to wait. and wait. and wait. And keep working on me. This is why being Daddy first is so key for me.
Me: 35 W: 32 S: 4 T: 6 M: 4 Physical Separation official: 5/21 Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son
Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.