So sorry that you are feeling so low both mentally and physically. And sorry about your ma as well. V, if I have learned one thing in my time on these boards, you are one of the strongest people I have ever come across. You are tough, you are strong, you are fearless. I have no doubt this low point will come to an end, and hopefully soon.
As for not "belonging" here, V, you are an inspiration wherever you are. It took me awhile to make the move to this forum too but it just made me realize when reading other stories on newcomers that my journey was on a whole different track than theirs. I was on the downside of mine while they are just beginning. I think wherever you are, V, you shine and you give such great advice that you belong on all the forums you want to be on.
I once worked with a lady who used to tell me if we touch just one person in our lives....truly touch them....we have done a great thing. I dare say, Lady V, that YOU have touched way more than 1 and probably more than you will ever know.
Much love, lady...from me and Molly both.
Me 52, H53 Bomb drop 9/29/2014 Divorce from XH final 12/17/2014 Marriage #2 12/31/2019 5 adult (step)daughters (3 from XH's first marriage, 2 from current H's previous relationships) 6 grandkids