D now though is very happy with how I'm acting (at least per our conversations). Her biggest complaint about me is the I never help mommy with anything (had this conversation last weekend) and mommy is so busy she desperately needs my help. W does yoga and runs for 3-4 hrs a day and does God knows what else now. I work from 7-6 at least every day and can barely squeeze in any gym time. That rubs me the wrong way and makes me wonder if WW is not feeding things Into to Ds brain.
Of course she's feeding this into D's brain. More controlling behavior, trying to sour your relationship with D. Or, put another way, your improving relationship with D is a threat to her feeling of being in control, which she depends on, so she tries to sabotage.
That's one of my biggest fears JR. I got a message from my D this morning from Ws phone. "Hi can you come to my art show". It was right after my L appointment so I respond back asking what time it is. W responds back w/ "1215 same as always".
Show up and D is a bit stand offish from me. Not sure what's happened from last night to today. Will need to talk to her about it later if she's acting different when I get home. But it really does put me in a dark place to think that W may be trying to sabotage my R w/ D.
L today seemed pretty good. Had a much more in depth conversation around options and what she was afraid of w/ my situation. She seemed very concerned that W was trying to get control of D so that she could move since she has no ties here. Wondering if that's the L trying to worry me or there's some truth to it. L seemed concerned that W would take D and move closer to OM or back down to where we used to live.
I do feel like I've got a better idea of my rights now though. All these L visits have helped to frame that Ws idea of the custody situation isn't the norm. The past 2 Ls said it's possible that Ws L is coaching her to set the bar high w/ me to make negotiations easier for them. I'd of never thought W was capable of doing something like that. Guess I'd never thought she was capable of any of this though.
It's so funny bc I'd never have the wool pulled over my eyes like this by anyone but my WW. My trust in her was 100% and I guess I was mistaken to carry that trust over into this mess. Not sure I've ever trusted anyone else like that before. Guessing it'll be awhile before I do again, though that may not be a bad thing.
AP, sorry about the rambling response earlier. I was in the L waiting room and trying to hammer thoughts out. This thing is going ahead w/ or w/o me. I won't be an impediment, but I also won't be an instigator I think. I'm going to try to change the mood around the house this weekend and do a 180 on the recent silent treatment of W.
Debating how/if I respond to the letter. I'll lift it off the counter today, but need to re-read and maybe put together a short response. Like maybe a paragraph. W hasn't mentioned anything else since she put that letter on the counter. A weird week for sure.
Me39 M11 : T13 D9 BD 5/31/16 In House S until 6/21/17 Divorced 10/5/18
