We are taking things a lot slower now. She is still out if the MBR and it seems she will continue to be for a while. In all honesty I am happy with her in another room. I have felt a lot of pressure to "keep her happy" while working on our R. The personal space I have feels really good. We have been spending time together, but it's much more comfortable than before. I think I was putting a lot of pressure on myself to be close to her to make up for lost time, but this was killing the vibe of it all and causing her to pull back. I have made it a point to give it a month of just hanging out with W in this chill mode, which seems to be going well. This is also helping to reduce the impulsive changes in my behaviour. I have been flipfloping with her moods, giving up on her and being a little cold, then comforting her when I saw that she was hurting. Not good. To be more consistent and to not identify her with negatives I came up with "give up on her actions, but don't give up on her". Maybe theres a better way to word that, but it is helping with my overall view of the situation.
