Very close to giving up

[Jug]

Rsg,

Sorry you're having such a rough night. Fight some more and feel good that you did. I'm setting a date for myself for when I'd throw in the towel.

Thanks Jug. I made it through yesterday, doing ok again today! I agree with the others, don't set a date as it just creates added stress on you. As for boundaries re the dbag around your W, I'd say 2 things: Try your hardest not to mention them. Even though they'll never say it, it will surprise your W. Don't worry about him. He is likely a loser, and someone who kisses her butt no matter what nonsensical thing she's saying.


When my W left, she took S with her (that day) because she said I was "unstable" too based on having a natural, emotional reaction. It's a way for them to be in control, and project THEIR lack of mental stability on to you.

You're still living together? That's harder for me to give advice about. All I can really say is do your thing, don't ask about what she's doing....

Thanks rsg. I read the momma bear thing last night and that was so rough. I feel for all of you.

I appreciate the support and advice. I won't bring up OM outside of mc. I've been getting the "you are unstable" thing a lot for being sad and upset. It's always when I get a bd like ilybinilwy and discovery of the A. I never yelled, hit, broke anything, or stormed out. For the latter, I didn't sleep all night and read books about marriage. Pretty unstable, right? Hope you have a good weekend. Stay strong.