I should update this a little. The other day I went and opened a new bank account at the advice of my parents and a close friend. I pulled out most of the remaining adoption stipend and put it in the account to keep safe. I did this because I cannot trust her or her judgement right now. I am afraid she will clean out the account to make a deposit on an apartment or something else.
This caused her to blow up and want a divorce. I kind of knew that would all happen. Later in the day, he brother talked her down from the ledge and we agreed on legal separation. She asked me to write up a proposal of terms. So I went and spoke with an attorney and hashed it out with her. I came home to talk to my wife and we came up with an agreement. She cried many times but remained firm in her decision to leave. She complains about not having any money, but it is hard to feel sorry for her since she has created this situation when it could have been worked out.
We have gone back and forth on the house having no equity or at least after a refi or sale any equity would get wiped out since I only bought the house a year ago.
Yesterday all of a sudden she asks if I am sure I want to do this and what if things work out between us? Totally unexpected. I replied telling her I didn't want any of this, but I am trying to respect her wishes and solve things peacefully.
Later in the day she gets mad and says I am pressuring her with all of this legal stuff. I told her we can wait if she needs time and doesn't know 100%. Her response to that was "well now you're just playing games".
I feel like I cannot win at all right now. I feel like she is trying to be mad at me for anything she can in order to feel justified in her actions.
