Husband just told me he is moving out.

[Mombear]

So there was something going on. He started talking about this particular coworker a lot, which was unusual for him. I asked him several times, and he always just said that they work well together.

After our first marriage counseling session, he had left his e-mail open and I looked through it. I saw some e-mail exchanges between them, and I saw where we had sent her lists of the marriage counselors we were considering. The messages weren't inappropriate (other than that they were talking about our marriage with another married woman!) and said things like "These are the places we are considering, you should check some of them out, too."

None of the messages were flirty or sexual. But still. In my mind, it was a line crossed.