Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 3)

[JRuss]

[quote=Rose888]Just curious--how do you know how your GALing and 180ing is being read? Can you give us some examples?

Rose888 -- thanks so much for your post. To answer your initial question, I don't have a lot to go on in terms of how the GAL/180s are being interpreted. At one point several weeks ago, I was working in the backyard, and she was on the phone on the porch talking to one of her friends about our sitch and didn't know I was within earshot. She told the friend in that she knew I'd been making "some tweaks", but the overall conversation was about how hard getting out would be, how she feared I'd start hoping again. So, as of then, the efforts were being minimized/not much appreciated, too little too late. Other times since that call she's told me of her own volition that she can see how much weight I've lost, that I look handsome, that she appreciates all of the helping out I now do around the house, etc. So I have no idea, really. There's no overt change in how she acts around or toward me, though,so I don't have any basis for believing there's been any material change in what's going on inside her.

There's so much good stuff in your post -- I'm going to study it closely today as work allows. Thanks again!