I am sorry that you find yourself here, but this is the best worst place you can be in this situation. You will find lots of support especially if you keep posting regularly.
I am going to ask you to elaborate on your story.
Originally Posted By: mombear
Husband is very depressed... Started last fall when he started telling me he didn't feel connected to me anymore. He couldn't, wouldn't give me any more details than that. We started marriage counseling, but after about 7 visits, ended it... It wasn't going anywhere and he wasn't willing or able to do the work. Said he sees the world in black and white and feels numb.
You wrote this in your first post. Is there anything else you noticed about his behavior changing prior to this or since?
Other than not feeling a connection to you, does he have any complaints about the marriage?
The more information you provide, the better people can support you here.
The best thing to do at this point is to take care of yourself and your boys. You are at the very beginning of what could be a long journey.
Allow yourself time alone to cry and process your feelings, sleep, take baths, anything that will allow you to relax a bit.
Go on the vacation and enjoy it. Enjoy your boys. Just have fun. That is really what vacations are about anyway right? A break from real life?
I don't post often anymore, but I will try to check in on how you are doing.
Cat
"Acceptance doesn't mean resignation. It means understanding that something is what it is and there's got to be a way through it."--Michael J. Fox
