Very close to giving up

[roist]

Some good work going on there.Keep it up or better stillbuild on it.

I have not reread all your posts do I cannot comment fully on OM. I advise to not let him consume your mind. V difficult to do but in essence you choose how and what you think.

It does sound like a boundary is needed. Before MC, know what consequences you decide to implement if boundary continues to be broken. For the record, there are many many consequences and not automatically D.

You cannot work on a M with a third person, so stop working on it. No more MC, no more R talks, at minimum. Afterwards you choose how far is appropriate as a consequence.

Best wishes. Good luck with MC.