First, I'm really sorry you are having a bad day. (((MB)))
Originally Posted By: Maybell
Also I talked to my mom yesterday for an hour. She just digs all the time for the hurt spots, ranting about Mr. Fantastic and how awful he is. It makes things 100x harder when she dredges all that up. And when I try to talk about My Guy she brushes it off and doesn't ask any questions at all. She loves the drama. In the meantime I feel stuck in a box -- she doesn't want to connect with Maybell, she wants drama about The Divorced Daughter to report to her friends. And yesterday she even asked if I was doing ok for money! I was so offended.
Maybell, you may be 100% accurate about your mom's motivations. But here's another way to look at it. My mom has never asked me once in the past two years if I'm ok financially. She has never asked if I'm ok, period. She doesnt' ask about mr p, she doesn't ask if I'm dating. She pretends that part of my life doesn't exist. Maybe your mom is doing what she can to connect, maybe that's all she can manage. I think I'd take awkward questions over pretending my entire adult life didn't exist.
As for the ILY, you know how I feel about that. I say take the risk, say it if you feel it. What's going to happen? He says it back and then you are happy? He doesn't say it and it stings but you know that he actually does? He doesn't say it and you realize he doesn't love you? Wouldn't you rather know now? This isn't your first date with him, you are talking about a future. If you love him, I think you should say so.
Take the weekend to relax and recharge, sweetie, you need it.
