Why set a date?In my view it is counterproductive.It adds pressure, even if only on you. I completely understand not wanting to continue as is indefinitely.
What does throwing in the towel look like to you?
Many previous posters who have been here a long time, tended to say that they will know when they are done. Until then the follow their path. What that path is is up to you.
So what are you working on today? What are your plans for the weekend?
Stop mind reading. Talk is cheap. When she gets a job that is different but even then, that is not necessarily a bad thing. Until that happens it is futile to stress about it.
Thanks for the thoughts and good vibes.
Throwing in the towel means D. We are at an impasse because she's not breaking contact. Continuing to live like this is abusive to me.
I am currently working on all of the db advice, especially being friendly. I read every day, journal(not just here), and do my cbt exercises. I take care of myself physically and already take care of and play with my son(more than Ww).
You are absolutely right about the fortune telling thing. Thanks. Straight out of cbt.
We have couples mc today and I'm putting together a plan, trying to focus on addressing the no contact thing. We keep getting diverted...
Plans for this weekend are to do stuff with son and generally house stuff. Ww is going to a movie with a (non OM) friend.
- m and ww in 30s - s4 - m 11 yrs, t12 -ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM - bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa - 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
