Babe, Each situation is different. The MLCer could sit down and talk to the parents (if they are still alive) and then accept what happened. In some cases, the parents are deceased and there's no way to have that talk...but the MLCer may go to a therapist and work thru the issues and come to realize that he/she wasn't at fault for what transpired.
What I have found is that the MLCer needs to go back to the time that they were emotionally stunted and face those issues, accept that they weren't at fault and then continue on w/their journey. Let me just say this...accepting that they weren't at fault doesn't mean that the scars aren't there and they don't think about what happened. They live w/the knowledge each and every day, but if they can work thru those issues, the scars can fade into the background a bit. Their lives may or may not get better w/the knowledge and in some cases, they won't forgive the person(s) who stunted them emotionally w/their actions. Those individuals are usually the ones that remain stuck.
Some reconcile and others don't...it depends upon how both parties deal w/the issues that are raised.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
