Was sucked in in a fight/discussion yesterday, started innocent enough and went on that she is trying to find a job.
Replied that she is only trying to get a job to leave me, and that she did not have decency to find job for 10y we were married, she started really looking for employment when she dropped the bomb.
Than it all started: she got pregnant, I ruined her life, she had 2 freelancing jobs (for 1-2 weeks) in this 10y period, it is not her fault that she did not get more freelancing work. after that totally unrelated - things she will never forget and forgive that I did, that I don't want to buy her apartment for her to live in and bla bla.. all the things she said for a million times that I did, will not do, history...

One more reason she is not getting a job (deduction, talked to one friend that works as HR manager) - she is looking for a expert salary with no real work experience, and she has attitude that she deserves job because of education and not because of experience and wanting to work hard. Friend said that she would always hire a person that is experienced in work field than someone who just talks and then shows in tests that does not have real world experience.


Also I got this today:
you are not working on our relationship, that is why I am leaving.

wtf?


Me38,W36,D9
M 10y, R 14y

10/11/2015 wants to leave
25/12/2015 definitely wants to leave, makes plans
Jan 2016 started DBing
Feb 2016 sleeping in separate rooms
Sep 2016 sleeping in same room