Any suggestions would be appreciated. Same sitch, nothing new to add. I do have concerns on what to do for our 20th wedding anniversary. Do I acknowledge it, without making it a big deal. Do,I get a card in case she gives one to me. If she expects me to do something and I don't does that make her think I don't care and her decision to leave will,only be reinforced by no acknowledgement.

I can't wish her a happy anniversary, after her bomb drop. Any suggestions would be appreciated

Don't count the days, make the days count.
Mohammad Ali