What should I be doing (Working toward D 9)

[Altair]

Just the fact we are talking about firefighters i think is interesting. They are, by definition, a fantasy of women, the fantasy 'rescuers'. (please, if there are any real firefighters here, forgive me and hold your fire)
I get it. Firefighter calendars are very sexy. But the reality is, what?the fantasy of seeing them sitting around a station doing nothing, getting flirted with, waiting for action.
I like Sandi's advice. When the fantasy is strong, you can't really compete with that, right? I'm with someone right now who thinks that dating/f****ing/whatevering other women is going to help him understand who he is and what women are attracted to him and why he does what he does. Ridiculous, right? All fantasies, and there we are, in reality, jobs and busted marriages and kids and bills. I probably will be told to go dark and let him go too, i'll find out tonight, actually.
Point being, we can't compete with fantasies. I think they need to feel the cold hard stainless steel seat of reality before people like us are even appreciated. and that will take some serious time.