Thanks for asking. Not too good. Any ground I had I lost today. Was getting s4 and when he was saying goodbye to his mother he asked if they could go to the pier and see Mr. [name of OM]. I made eye contact w her and just walked away. I had asked that he never meet my s4. She followed me down and was apologizing. I told her about my boundaries and just continued to get more pissed off from there. I really lost and beat her up verbally. Major, major backslide and I feel like all of my hard work just got set back months.
Buddy, trust me. You didn't lose much, if ANY ground. My W told me after a week, when I found out about Trailer trash, that the 3 of them had been to the park together. I made it CLEAR I didn't want that loser around my boy. (My boy who btw looks like me, except for his blonde hair which he got from my Dad. He looks nothing like her) I yelled, screamed, cursed and hung up on her in seething anger numerous times 6-8 weeks after she left. When S mentioned it himself the past couple days, I let her know CLEARLY it was not appropriate. Today? I ask him the same question, he says "I had fun at Mommy's house!"
My point: Just because you got angry and likely told her the same things we've all told our spouses at least once, doesn't mean you're being D tomorrow. It doesn't mean you're full of anger and ugly inside. Just keep it in the back of your mind. The next time it should come up, stay calm but be VERY direct and tell her it is unacceptable.
The fact she said sorry is positive. If she said who cares, or something of that nature, I think you know what that would mean....
Me: 35 W: 32 S: 4 T: 6 M: 4 Physical Separation official: 5/21 Currently: DR/DBing, Focusing on me and son
Cheating on a good person is like throwing away a diamond and picking up a rock.
