I write too much...

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Ok so I order both DB and DR - Monday arrival. Wife is moving out within a couple weeks. Plan is at least 6 months.

My one true and only fault here is not knowing how to listen and connect.

I think it might be a good idea to spend some time in the mirror to really consider this. What would SHE say are your biggest faults (whether you agree with them or not)?

I was upset and angry and felt disrespected and betrayed. But I got over it.

You "got over it"? How would you two communicate about these kinds of hurts and disagreements? Or were they just swept aside with no real resolution?

I did call her a “giant ball of bitch”, which I should not have, but trust me, she has called me plenty of names over the years and we just get over it.

Heres that phrase again...

We both get heated easily and say mean things and then apologize.

My one true and only fault here is not knowing how to listen and connect.

I think it might be a good idea to spend some time in the mirror to really consider this. What would SHE say are your biggest faults (whether you agree with them or not)?

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Honestly, I have thought long and hard on this one. I have to be honest, I have never felt respected in this relationship. My wife has always been a "if you don't like it, then F*** you, I'm gonna do what I want" kind of person. Her brother pretty much confirms that. Hence, when I have asked for small things like trying to be a little tidier and turn off lights to save energy, or put my stuff back where it goes when she uses it: I have been accused of nitpicking and being controlling from day one. There really has never been a receptive response to it throughout these 4 years. I feel like I have resented her for it the whole time and allowed it to irritate me to the point where I am irritated all the time and feel like she has no consideration for me or my stuff or our shared living space.