sorry for thread hijack, but when do you switch from full on DB mode (going dark) to letting them see more of your light if they are showing signs of wanting to piece?

My W is "dating" but still says she wants to see how it goes, and I want to ensure none of the DB actions come across as negative behaviours.

Any advice?

M 10, T 18
M: 36, W: 35, D: 8, S: 6
EA: Oct 12
ILYBINILWY: Jan 15
BD: Aug 15
Separated: Sep 15
Miss you: Jun 16
Aug 16: Dating (!)
Oct 16: Selfishness returns...
currently: disgusted