Newby here, desperate for some advice (thread 3)

[JRuss]

Me too, FG. I think she might say I need to figure out a way for my W to experience serious "loss", but that runs into my thoughts above re the WAS/WW distinction, and I'm not sure that's the best approach (or even how I'd do it short of moving out, which I'm not doing) if she's WAS (as opposed to WW).

For now I'm just going to put my head down and get back to DBing, try to be as outwardly happy and not affected as possible, intensify GALing and 180s, try to (re)focus on how good that can make and has made me feel and see what happens.

Seriously, maybe that's the route to detachment: if you do everything you can, how can you do more? And don't you eventually come to the realization that there isn't anything else you can be doing? And does that maybe give you the peace of mind to let go?

Going to get of the internet for a while and work out!