Need a little advice. I am back at home for 4 days. The friends I am staying with are getting out of town company and I didn't want to be there interrupting their lives any more than I already have.
I called my W yesterday morning and asked to stay at the house. As kind as she could be, she said, "that's fine". She has noticed my 180s, because she commented on them about 2 weeks ago. Since then I have had only 1 backslide when she asked if I would mind if she went for a walk. I said "of course I mind, but go ahead". Meaning I wanted her at home with me. She didn't go. We have had no R talk and have both been as kind as can be toward each other, just as friends, I have given her the freedom to do whatever she wants (except the above) and have told her to have fun and enjoy herself whenever she goes. I am home everyday after work and leave after the kids go to bed. 8:00 - 9:00 pm
My question is, I know I need to give her space, during these 4 days, but I also want to spend time with D5 and D7. Part of our sitch is that I was doing my own thing, when she desperatley wanted to do things as a family. I was deaf dumb and blind to her needs. I would love to go with her and the family for just a fun day somewhere, but don't want to make her feel pressured because I am going to be around more these next 4 days. Kind of too much too soon.
I want her to feel as comfortable as she can around me during this stretch and hopefully I can make my house, my home again in the future.
I pray daily for the strength and guidance of God. I know that I am doing the right thing for everyone. I also pray for those of you here on the BB. You are all great inspirations to alot of people that you've never met. THAT is an answer to a prayer!
