I don't know of this will help, but that idea (that women feel pressured to have orgasms) is pretty common. I've heard people talk about it on Internet forums and read discussions of the issue in books on improving sex in marriage.
Me: 44 H: 44 Kids: 20, 16, 16, and 10 Together/Married: 22 years H announced he was emotionally detached and considering D: 4/4/16 H announced he is going to try to stay and reconnect: 5/1/16
