Yes I've initiated phone/texts. Basically regarding kids. But I have cut way back. Yes, she sees me as the enemy. I'm absolutely following your recommendations. About 3 weeks now. When she contacts me it is veiled in some subject but turns into me being a villain.
Family loss her side. Forgot 2, 2 and 4 yrs ago. Uncle and mom. No, didn't see a change then. Teeth whitening? Nothing stands out. Shows anger to kids, me, family members, and sometimes the public. Sometimes extreme. Usually after just a couple drinks though. Slightest amount of alcohol now has big effects. Lots of lies the last couple of years to anyone.
Funny you should mention. Yesterday at dinner, she called me on the premise of something and then went into a rage on me what I have done previous to our marriage, during, and what I'll do in the future. My demeanor was calm and supportive. I'm kind of a normal guy. No drugs, educated, career, no arrests, no cheating, always worked hard. Sometimes drink more than I should. We both do. But, I've turned the corner on that. I think she has too.
She is always mad and uses terminology and facial expressions I have never heard or seen before. Also now uses financial lingo that she never new before. I feel she's getting advice from divorced friends. Again I'm no angel. I have had short fuses before and say stuff in the heat of the moment I don't mean. I've improved hugely.
I know that her extreme inner beauty, kindness, patient, caring, and generous self is still in there. Her Outside beauty is still spectacular! I hope this wasn't too long?
