I go to a few 12 step programs because my DH is also an addict.
Your H is bipolar and an (ex-?) addict. Those are two *very* serious conditions. I would think it would be really hard for your R to be good until/unless he is willing to work on those two issues actively. So I guess my focus would be on that, rather than the R.
(Writing this gives me some perspectives on my situation too. Thanks.)
Me: 50, MLC/WW 45 Young kids Nov 2015: BD1 Apr 2016: BD2 Jan 2017: W filed Feb 2017: D final
