Keep Wearing Wedding Band? [Thread #2]

[ForGump]

PsySara-- thanks for your response. Makes me think... which is good.

I think simply refusing to provide pertinent information could just deepen my WW's view that I'm the source of her problems, and that I'm clinging onto her. A 180 might be to say proactively, "You wanna go, then go."

Also, in my situation, I think us spelling out the practical ramifications of a D would be eye-opening for her. A big part of her fantasy world is how life would be after the D. She doesn't realize what a struggle it would be for her economically -- and how much she's see our kids less. This might seem elementary to some, but I believe my W just is not able to truly grasp hypotheticals until/unless she's knee deep in it.

My IC is encouraging me to go forward w/ the D, because she thinks it'll be a big wake-up call for my WW. I've not made up my mind on this, and will think on what you said.

I think I've been doing a fair job of GAL. I've unhitched my life to hers to the extent possible while living together. We do coordinate kids & dinner still -- there is probably some room for improving my DETACH/GAL/180 there. But setting her up to experience some loss is difficult while living together. Working on it though! Thanks for your encouragement.