Oh Man oh Man....such wonderful support and insightful advice from all of you!!! Thank you, thank you, thank you!!

Deb...I too, get blacked out on reading different posts from time to time and spreading myself so thin....but thanks for you continued interest and positive feedback. It means so much, that you'll visit from time to time.

Sue (Hoping)....your wise words, a voice of experience touches me deeply. Thanks for catching up and taking the time to respond. I agree with your thoughts are starting to show interest and follow h's lead for R talking. I will email you further, as I follow your thread and healing M very closely. Quite a role-model for me!!

KAW...those specifis are really on target for me. Those "I statement"....are a 180 for me....it's work, but soooo necessary. Thanks for the reminder to re-read the specifics of DR that require making adjustments along the way. Your encouragement and pointing out the that H wants to work on this together....really warmed my heart!!

Nik...xOW is truly an issue for me. H has not opened that door...even brought anything up about her or our ugly past encounter (1 yr ago last week-end)....so...I will patiently wait for an opening and then tread lightly....it will one day have to be resolved for me....FOR SURE! I know she is not in the picture....at least personally....she may not even be working for the Co. anymore....there are absolutely NO signs of her or any other W. Whatever was there must have fizzled a while back....will cross that bridge when the time's right.

Christine...thanks for checking in on my sitch. A lot to cover, but the brief review and on-target insights help a lot. The roadmap concept makes sense. Totally forgot to look at the progress from that standpoint. Loved the reminder to listen carefully....take it in...even if I don't agree with it all....VALIDATE, constant work in progress. You are right....his thoughts are HIS current REALITY...and I need to better understand that. Thanks you.

And Wonder....
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Just slow down and keep moving!!



This is soooo true. Gotta take things slow....patience even more important now that I have real hope. I need to be aware of adjusting things...as you, KAW and Sue reminded me of.

You all have lifted my spirits tremendously.

I read a brief chapter on "conquering fear" this morning in one of my Christian booklets....about letting go of fear...fear of the unknown, fear of making mistakes, fear of not being loved, fear of trying new things, etc. We need not battle fear, but embrace God's love...that's waht He wants for us and will give it unconditionally. To trust Him more....love Him more....and give up the fears. He is there to protect us, if we believe.
THE NATURE OF GOD

Just wanted to share that....it hit home with me this morning.

A heartfelt thanks to all my DBer friends out there in cyberspace!!

Mooka