Quote: Revelation time: I AM BLOWN BACK TO MY OLD HABITS WHEN STRESSED!
This is a great thing to be aware of-- but also keep it perspective: who is this NOT true of? Oh, I am sure there are people out there, but for many of us, this is exactly the time we fall into old patterns... so be gentle with yourself as you step back and make one change then another. Much more manageable.
You're doing so great here, Mooka. And Sue makes a good point about the DB 'rules'... do what works. And if not saying you want to spend an evening with your H creates a problem that isn't there, then it doesn't work. One thing that is tough to remember is that when the sitch starts to change, sometimes there are adjustments we need to make in our approach. Of course, Michelle points out wisely in DR that we need to do that slowly and cautiously when they start to show interest again... but sometimes we do need to change a thing or two...
You're on the right track, for sure. Just slow down and keep moving!!
