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#2697582 08/18/16 06:06 AM
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Hi Everyone,

Not that many on here know me anymore probably, but I'm back. Not sure why I stopped coming except maybe I was just trying to get through day to day and I slipped.

If you want to know my background, I'll post my links in the next post.

Since I was last on here, I lost my job, had major surgery, and have been watching the deterioration of even the friendship between H and myself. I don't know what to say, do, and am always exhausted.

I'm also lonely and confused. My counselor says I should journal and that if maybe I committed to coming back on here, I could let some stuff out. It's just...I don't want to be doom and gloom. But I am inside and I can't do it much longer.

Ely


M 46 / H 43
T 24/M 18
S 4
11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY
1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom
1/8/2016 H moved out

Elly4 #2697583 08/18/16 06:06 AM
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M 46 / H 43
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11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY
1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom
1/8/2016 H moved out

Elly4 #2697601 08/18/16 06:59 AM
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Welcome back. I wish it was under better circumstances.

You sound like you may be depressed. Does your if think so?

What can't you do much longer? What are you going to do to end it?

Best wishes. How is your son doing?


R 25 years
M 14 years
S11 & S13
Working on it alone since Oct 2014
M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years)
Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr.
Next R chat Aug'17
Still together
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Hey Elly -

How is your GAL going?
I find that those activities help me to overcome those feelings of doom.

How's your son? Does being with him help fight back the loneliness?

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Elly, I remember you. I was only thinking about you the other day! As you can see I'm still here. Pregnant and h is filing.

You do sound like you are quite depressed. Lots of love and hugs to you


Me 26 H 25
M 4
T 5
Baby born 4/14
BD: 1/15
EA: 2/15
PA: 4/15
reconciling: 4/15
ILYBINILWY- 11/15
ILY-1/16
ILYBNILWY 4/16
ILY 6/16
ILYBINILWY 6/16
Baby due 3/17
BD 8/16
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Welcome back Elly! Let us know what we can do to help support you!


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M11 : T13
D9
BD 5/31/16
In House S until 6/21/17
Divorced 10/5/18
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Hi Roist, Darnes, Cherry, and It. I am depressed, and I haven't been GALing because of my job situation. When I'm with my s, he helps to sweep it away, but I'm very tired and frustrated about movement restrictions due to surgery. That's probably added to my mood quite a bit.

I am isolating myself and I shouldn't. So I'm back on here to talk and ask advice and help others if I may.

I'm so sorry, Cherry that your sitch is worse.

Elly


M 46 / H 43
T 24/M 18
S 4
11/6/2014 ILYBNILWY
1/16/2015 Living in separate bedroom
1/8/2016 H moved out

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Sorry to hear that you're in a bad way. Maybe coming back to the group is a good idea. Lots of lovely people that know and share that pain and helping each other


Me 26 H 25
M 4
T 5
Baby born 4/14
BD: 1/15
EA: 2/15
PA: 4/15
reconciling: 4/15
ILYBINILWY- 11/15
ILY-1/16
ILYBNILWY 4/16
ILY 6/16
ILYBINILWY 6/16
Baby due 3/17
BD 8/16
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Hi Elly,
I'm sorry you find yourself back here, but you know this is a great (and safe) space to vent your frustrations and look at things through a new lens. I'm sorry you are feeling down. Remember to start small- journaling is good, yes.... But also take the time to truly think about what you are grateful for each day. It may be hard and it's not an overnight remedy but it works. It does!


Me- 30's H- 40's
T-10 M-5
I moved out b/c he wanted space- June 15
D filed by H: September 16
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Hi Elly

I too remember you many are still here and it is a fantastic place to be

I am with you want to talk vent or just chat then let's do it

It is hard I am probably one of the slowest in this race take each day as it comes love yourself do things for you

Hugs

Ghost


Me:48 W 41
M:18 T:26
2 D 18 & 4
2 S 17 & 13
Bomb: 20/7/2015 in house separation
D filed 06/17
Separate houses 10/17
D Final 29/12//17.
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