I'm coming over as you requested. I didn't read your whole thread so forgive me if something has already been covered.
Here's what I see: He is giving you a roadmap for changes. This is fantastic! Listen VERY carefully to what he tells you...even if you don't agree with it. It is his reality, so listen very carefully.
Something that helped me along the way was to realize that, when I feel overwhelmed by things (and I think that many times we women get a lot of responsibility dumped on us), I don't have to complain or express to H how I feel. I started to lean on my friends more for venting and to have a sympathetic ear.
I think that what happens is that we start to feel overwhelmed so the first person we talk to about this is our H. After all, aren't we supposed to be partners in all of this? Then I believe that they don't know what to do for us, they start to feel pressured and perceive us as complainers and then they feel that the best solution is to get away from us. So I take my complaints to my sympathetic friends which puts me in a better place to communicate more logically and less emotionally with H. I now find myself complaining less to him and taking action more.
Thanks for coming by my thread. I'll keep checking on you.
Christine
I am the master of creating positive energy and love in my own environment. I am the source of love in my life. It starts with me! This energy radiates from me! It gives me strength, courage, wisdom and grace!
