SH, I did watch the TED talk you recommended, about the person we really need to marry. It was a good talk, though I wish she'd gone into more depth somehow. I guess I was left with more questions than anything else. What does that look like, what does it really mean? .
Good morning Phoebe!
Google the speakers name. You will find the source of additional details to clarify her message for you. The point I took from it, is that we need to be on track with ourselves first. Many LBS struggle because of codependency on the way the WAS has made us feel and is making us feel I see many of the LBS fretting more over their own personal emotions of loneliness , self doubt, self esteem, etc., than the feeling and needs of their partners. Many are seeking companionship as soon as possible to ease their pain.
We need to be okay being alone and loving ourself first. Idk that there is a specific way to do this, but I read frequently from successful folks that we need to be good with ourself first before we can be good in a relationship and other aspects of success.
Anyway, I hope you look further into this and share/discuss this with me further as I am working on this.
I hope you feel better, and please take care as the physical ailments can add weight to the emotional state if not cared for.
Maybe this is a higher power stepping in and getting you to slow down a bit.
I miss our daily chit chats. Hopefully we can organize our chaos a bit to fit time in to do so as I think we still have a ways to go on our journey. You are one of my biggest supports and inspirations here.
Be well today and take care.
Me 46 Former W 46 D19 D7 BD Feb 2016 WAW moves out 4/16/16 D final 6/1/2017
It's time for me to start changin' the way I look at the world......and at myself. ~James Howlett aka Wolverine
