After a couple good days this weekend w is back in the mlc swing of things. I know she is upset and I suspect her friend(s) are most likely validating her and not helping; such is mlc, she's mad at me for her actions. She acts depressed then angry and keeps making various comments, a lot of them about how it isn't fair I went to grad school while she worked (we could make this happen for her now if we worked on things) and now asking to be allowed to see or talk to the kids which is ridiculous. She was also acting like I took this week from her, she offered it then made plans because she didn't consider she might not get recommended custody. I mostly kept quiet and let her try to justify her blaming me. I wonder if she even listened to herself, ridiculous.
Last weekend we planned on her coming to see the kids tonight. My babysitter went to see her grandmother yesterday afternoon so my sister came to watch the kids today. I texted with w last night, and told her and since she was going to be in town this week asked if she wanted to watch them and offered her my house. She sounded really depressed, then said she would like that "if the kids wanted to see her."
D has had a fever on and off since Monday. This afternoon she seemed to be getting worse so I took her to the dr. She has a throat infection. I've kept w informed all week and then today when I left work. She acted like she didn't want to see my sister or dad (honestly I didn't want him to see her either, he's not handling this well and he's upset with me for agreeing to share custody thinking I will get taken advantage of and definitely not DBing, it's so easy for others to want you to give up) so I figured out how to get home with d, then have w come over while trying not to be rude or ungrateful. She came by, it must have been just minutes after I got home, and then waited a couple blocks away at the kids' school. She was then mad at me. All of this must have been 10-15 minutes. After she was here I ran to get d's prescription and when I got back she was angry, d's fever got scary high and she had to get her cooled down which I guess is my fault. after I sat down d got up and came over to have me hold her. W got mad and stomped off to the bathroom. I held her awhile then asked if her mom could hold her so I could make dinner. W said "does she even want me too?" She stayed awhile after but seemed mad the whole time. She asked about staying the night w d, I told her idk you seem really agitated with me. She said no, then her attitude changed a little. I told her I could handle it and would call if she wanted. She told me she had been up since 4am, hadn't eaten all day, and wasn't sleeping lately so she'd probably be up anyway and to call her at 2. Then she told me she wasn't going to do any chores at my house the next day. I laughed and said I sure wasn't expecting it but that I was behind on laundry (lol, she wasn't when she lived here in Mlc land either) It kind of broke the ice for a little while and she left on a slightly better note but she was pretty awful tonight.
Maybe offering her the house to come over here to watch the kids was a mistake. I'm not trying to take them away from her like she was to me and she hadn't had them in over 2 weeks so I thought it would be nice. idk, I guess I will see how tomorrow goes. Tonight was defiantly a reminder to reach deeper for patience and to keep my eyes open.
D seems better, her fever has stayed down for awhile now and she is sleeping. Hopefully her antibiotic will start working, poor girl, she felt awful today.
