Unless you are in the last resort while your spouse is in an affair then DBing discourages doing anything to move the divorce forward. This may be a moot point if your W doesn't have the money for a retainer. DBing would be for you to kindly inform her that you do not want a divorce and therefore will not hinder her but will not actively help the forward movement of a divorce.

A HUGE piece of DBing is the GAL. Make yourself very busy and not as available to your W. She needs to feel loss. Meanwhile you need to return to the person you were before meeting your wife. A confident guy who wouldn't wait around for some chic to decide if you were worth pursuing. Make a list of your qualities before your W, see if you can find the good part of yourself and build it up.

M 10yrs T 13yrs
BD #1Oct 2015-PA between WAH and COW
BD #2 April 2016-WH resumed PA, she broke it off
Jan 2 2017 WH says he wants divorce
April '17-Letting go
2018 D busted
DD8, DS6, DS3