Si, you haven't really updated lately, so I don't know current sitch or understand why you want to give her letter.

Is the letter you're thinking of giving a list of what you require in order to consider reconciling or is it a letter letting her know you want to reconcile? Understand I was past DB'ing and moving towards D when I text my WW, and wanted to list my boundaries but letting her know I was still willing to consider reconciling... My actions weren't necessarily DB, just a communication after being pretty cruel (open and honest about feelings) over last few weeks.


M - 9 1/2 years
5/5/16 - Bomb drop - 3 week EA
10/31/16 - We sold house
01/10/18 - D Finalized