What should I be doing (Working toward D 9)

[Coconut]

Si, I will go back and read your sitch as well and respond directly...

CBT, my doppelgänger, I agree. My mind is set on divorce, I know that without major major changes from W, we will end up there anyway, I just wanted to let her know the door isn't locked... I'm really looking forward to moving away and my family fully supports me doing what is best for me.. But if the chance is there to save my M, and for it to be good, I wanted to let her know I'm still willing. I teared up a little when I read her response, but I feel it is still very selfish.. When comparing a 8 yr M to a volunteer position she been in for 5 months, she still chooses the volunteer position, but if that's her choice, then I know I must move forward. I'm willing to do the work, but not by myself.

As for her saying she's tried to think how she'd react, I think her response is laughable. Before my bachelor party she told me that she didn't want me to go to a strip club, so when my party decided a bachelor party decided a strip club was in order, I stayed in the van with my cousin while they went to a strip club, and when my bachelor party decided to have a waitress call her and say she should let me go to a strip club (which I didn't go to) she was hurt and said she wanted to call off the wedding (even though I didn't go or want the female waitress to call)... Not to mention when back then she asked me if I thought a co-worker was cute I said yes, she was overly jealous and asked me not to talk to her, I told her I have been friends with that co-worker for years and if something was going to happen it already would have, she was livid so I backed off, but yet she indicates she would not be completely devastated if I had an A after 8 years... It's almost laughable.

Anyway, I signed the listing agreement and am allowing her to move forward with that, I'm not going to do any work towards selling the house, that burden is hers to bear.