Sunny Days are Here, Again

[Georgiabelle]

Sunny,

I don't think I've been following along but I immensely enjoyed your thread. Not that I have much to contribute, although I can relate to that feeling of something not knowing what to do. As of late when that has happened, I just turn up the music and dance with my peeps.

I know some of this is a older chat, but in regards to the OW,I try to take that ever challenging high road. I do maintain the road can be dark, filled with potholes, and have few cars. However, it really is the only road. That doesn't mean I don't have my moments though:)X Mr. GB's gf just graduated from college so it *IS* odd to think when we got married she was in grade school. And ya know what? I think the universe gives us these events for difficult to explain reasons.

I'm sorry things didn't work out with your guy. Once you click with someone, it can be challenging to find someone that you have that same feeling for. Not sure what the dealbreaker was, however just remember that because things didn't work out doesn't mean it wasn't meaningful or presented for a reason.

You have received such fantastic input from so many fabulous posters with much more valuable insight than I have. I did want to chime in on the friendship thing. While I certainly respect Zues's position, I'm in a whole other camp (hopefully with lots of bug spray. I lived in FL for a bit so I know it is necessary). Most of my friends are male. Some are married. Some are in Rs. Overall, I would say they are a group many women gravitate to in general. Some have strayed. Not my place to judge. However, I have never, ever been interested in them in that way. Many were a fantastic support system during my D and sense then. I consider myself lucky to have a network to consult males for opinions. Again, exactly 0 has happened between me an said friends. Do some people cross lines? Sure. But realistically, they were probably going to cross a line of some sort whether they had female/male friends regardless. I mean, folks hook up all the time in a variety of ways. That's on them

Anyway, I think if you decide to be introduced to the duck, then that is perfectly awesome. Do what you think is best because grudgeholding only creates wrinkles IMVHO. You aren't advocating that an affair was correct-you are saying "it is what it is" and I need to move forward. You can't change them or what happened. However, you can change how you continue to move on.

Hang in there:)