Hi Ghost, I think SH has posted some wonderful advice....what he suggests is not a bad place to start at all. Try to suspend any thoughts of 'what may she think, will this help or hinder our M, won't this drive her away etc.'

The core of things here is about who you are, where you are at and who you may become. Those are the things to focus on...

I look forward to hearing how you get along with the 'homework' and reading your thoughts on where that may take you.

Good luck! X

T 13 M 7
Me 48 H 46
SS 15
BD 7.14 PA
D final 5.16 (H filed)

We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus