Need to take things for what they are and if it's not a step backwards it's a step forward.
What you said to your W about it not being about her but about you moving forward is a good thing. Gives her something to think about and shows strength on your part.
Keep it up!
ME- 31 W-25 T-5 M-3 D2 ILYBNILWY and moved out - FEB16 W seeing someone else - JUL16