I have been sooo busy the last 2 days,now finally catching up.
First of all....last Tues with H went quite well. Without getting too hopeful these are the pos that happened that day:
H callled twice, before work and at lunch to confirm our evening together. He was chatty, friendly....covering logistics that could have waited til that night.
He left work early (4ish)...used to always work til 6-7.
He was chatty, friendly...played alot with dog.
Asked a few questions about my work, house, yard, etc. Seemed to really listen carefully.
He initiated talk about his "journey" Said he's had some quality time to think and is beginning to realize what's important to him. He talked about how he had "lost" himself in the rat-race of the corp. world, played the games, gave too much of himself....and along the way "lost" much of what is really important to who he really is...and what he is all about. He want to be more of himself....like the guy I first met....values, passions, honest, etc.
I just listened, nodded my head, valadated, etc.
He talked about what he sees his future being like. Very simple, not about the rat-race, getting a head...dancing the steps for others rather than himself. He may drop out of this type of work and simplify.
He asked me my thoughts....I agreed that his work-world had drained the best out of him....that I was glad he was getting back to what's important to the old H.
I, then shared parts of my "journey." Stuff I have posted here along the way....spiritual, service-oriented, working/volunteering for people in need.....blah, blah, blah....
H listened, and seemed interested.
Then we left that talk alone. Had a nice dinner, drinks, went outside and watched the full moon rise...talked more, but it was light.
All in all a very pleasant, polite, evening. H did NOT talk specifics about me or OW and that type of future. So, neither did I.
H talked more about living in the city. His neighborhood...gave me lots of specifics and mentioned I should come in and see it all....we could do some things in the city together.
H said he wasn't an urban person, tho, long term....missed the out of doors, and open spaces. Too much conjestion.
H did press me at the end of the evening....what's on my mind? I finally said..."I will be with my Mom and sis on Mother's day...we are going to NYC for 5 days...and I think it's time I tell them more honestly what's going on between H and I. I said, "I don't like to pretend...it's not in my nature."
H said, yes do what you want of course, but I have an opinon about all that. H said he preferred I left it all alone until Mem. Day when my Mom NEEDS to know (she'll be coming here for a week)....that a lot can happen between now and the end of May .
I said I would think about it.
He intiated 2 hugs when leaving...then called about 15 min later en route back to city to thank me for the nice dinner ang great conversation!
So WTF does that mean? I want to read into much of this stuff....seems like H is making a shift, closer to me. But, I don't want to set up my expectations. I am staying cool about doing things with him. He wanted to come out early on Sat, hang with me, go hit golf balls and then take me to the airport. So that is happening...didn't take your advice.
H also keeps pressing me to go with him to get son on May 14...he wants me to train into the city....meet him at his office (which I haven't done in 9+months)) and we'll go from there around lunch time. I told him I'd see. He has brought it up at least 4 times over the past 10 days.
So all in all....it seems like H might be "piecing"...himself back together...and seeing if our paths have potential to re-connect.
Without getting too hopeful these are the pos that happened that day:
