Very close to giving up

[Jug]

Coaching has emphasized connection and being friends.

Have they explained why this approach makes sense?

I would guess your W sees you as a platonic friend, and just working on being friends will only deepen her conviction that you're not husband material (i.e., romantic, sexual partner). What do you think?

I think you are right gump, especially when she hasn't broken contact with OM. Btw, I think our situations are very similar and I feel for you. Hang in there.