Time to Love and discover myself

[Sotto]

Hey Pink - good to see an update from you my friend. So, I agree with Job. He is saying let's be friends. That's good, and don't try to make this into more than friends....ie - we're dating but we don't sleep together etc. I think at this stage, anything that looks like 'getting back together' may be pressure that he can't really handle.

I think he has realised that his life has become pretty empty and loveless. He holds feelings for you that had become buried for a time. However, his life is also in somewhat of a mess and he has some personal sorting out to do I think. And if he is in a R, that may become pulled quite thin. I'm reminded of Lou's H telling her that he really didn't have a R to offer just now. And I think you really need to listen as your XH seems to be telling you the same. But you want to hear - let's try again - but he's not ready.

So, I would ask you - can you open up a little more to him? Be on more friendly terms? Maybe go out once every week or two? Have few expectations of him and accept he may pop back in to his hole from time to time? I think you would need to be able to handle all of these things if you want to open a friendship door to him again...

Also, do be prepared that the convo you had also represents pressure to him and that may in itself lead to a pop back into the rabbit hole....so he may or may not deliver with organising an outing for you guys...

I hope this helps Sweetie - not what you want to hear perhaps - but I do think it may be the best way forward and increase your chances in the much longer term.

Good luck in any case my friend xx