Hi Jug, sorry to hear about the problems in your MR. You seem willing enough to try in getting help/advice. Has the subject of betrayal and the affair been addressed by the MC?
It was addressed and Ww refused to speak about it or propose ways to address my feelings.
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Ww refused to stop contact after ea confirmed. Broke many of the db rules over time but have been adhering to them for about a month. She lies about all aspects of the A and says I'm wrong to focus on the OM and we should try to reconnect instead.
Did she propose a plan of how to reconnect with a third party in the M?
No. She brought up the OM before my knowledge of the A.
If you can give us more marital history, it helps us get a clearer picture. Can you briefly describe the two of you before M? (How you got along, etc.)
The story of how we met is romantic and exciting. Involves a lot of travel because we only dated long distance. We married quickly and without much in person contact.
Has there ever been any type of inappropriate communication or contact with people of the opposite sex since the M?
Not that I'm aware of.
What would your W do with her time, before having a child?
She has always played video games and we watched movies and tv together. She used to read a lot as well.
Has the sex life in the M always been bad? And, by that, do you mean she wasn't as interested? Have you been living in a SSM?
It really was always bad. I was pushy and we had lots of fights about it early on, even agreeing that I couldn't initiate anything. And none for over a year now.
P.S. Thank you for the encouraging things you had to say.
You are welcome! Thank you for reading my posts!
- m and ww in 30s - s4 - m 11 yrs, t12 -ilybinilwy ~5/16 + request for OM - bd 7/16, confirm ea and strongly suspected pa - 9/16 ww claimed to have broken contact with om
