Hi Jug, sorry to hear about the problems in your MR. You seem willing enough to try in getting help/advice. Has the subject of betrayal and the affair been addressed by the MC?

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Ww refused to stop contact after ea confirmed. Broke many of the db rules over time but have been adhering to them for about a month. She lies about all aspects of the A and says I'm wrong to focus on the OM and we should try to reconnect instead.


Did she propose a plan of how to reconnect with a third party in the M?

If you can give us more marital history, it helps us get a clearer picture. Can you briefly describe the two of you before M? (How you got along, etc.)

Has there ever been any type of inappropriate communication or contact with people of the opposite sex since the M?

What would your W do with her time, before having a child?

Has the sex life in the M always been bad? And, by that, do you mean she wasn't as interested? Have you been living in a SSM?

P.S. Thank you for the encouraging things you had to say.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!